— Gentle Girl With Brutal Thoughts (2026), Alsu Gara
there is a level of seduction that exists beyond the body. something less tangible, and perhaps more potent. anais nin understood this idea about how desire does not begin with touch but with language, perception, and the sharp electric pull of a mind that challenges and excites you. in her journals, desire is not just a physical hunger but a hunger of the intellect, an unraveling of thought before an unraveling of the body. to be drawn into someone’s mind, to feel their thoughts press against your own, can be more intoxicating than any physical closeness.
—Caitlyn Richardson, 'can intellectual intimacy replace physical desire?', in milk fed
Understanding is way more intimate than love.
People love you for who they think you are, for who they see you as.
When they understand you, they see you and love you for who you are
i just want to be next to u by julia de ruvo, 2023, acrylic on canvas, 80 x 100 centimeters