i need some commiseration. =[
So, we are moving in a few weeks, husband is packing up his car and heading out all the way to New Hampshire to find an apartment, while me and the two kids (3 years, and a 4 month old) stay around here for two weeks getting the movers situated and packing etc. I figure we will fly out sometime around the 10th of August.
I emailed my dad to let him know, he lives about 6 hours south of me and has only visited his grandchildren twice (maybe 3 times?) in the 3 years that we have lived out here.. I told him when we were leaving, and as some kind of grand gesture (I guess) I told him it would be cool if he came to visit before we move. Maybe he could bring my brother, who lives pretty far away as well.
He emailed me back, and my brother too, to ask which dates were good for me, with a list of 3 or 4 sets of dates between now and the 10th. including the 10th. and I responded that the last one would be pretty stressful for us.
He responded by manipulating me, bringing up my brother and the fact that I will probably not see him again for a really long time if we move without letting him come up. and also that the 10th is the ONLY date that he can come up and that it would be totally cool to bring an air mattress and camp out in my living room floor.
not only that, he tried to make it sound like it was MY fault that I haven't seen my brother much. as if it is my fault that my brother is older than me and is only just getting his license... my dad drives up to Irvine from San Diego to pick up my brother at least 3 or 4 times a year...
I could go on and on, I am sorry.
I am completely bewildered, I was sort of wishy washy in the first few responses... I don't want to seem like I have completely cut him off, though I really never talk to him much anymore.. it always ends up horrible,. He always brings up his religion. I finally told him that it would not work and he would have to pick an earlier date.
I don't really have a question.. I just wanted to vent with people who might understand... I don't really want to see him at all.. I was so excited to move out of his house when I did and like i said, we rarely talk to this day. I just don't want to shut out his last opportunity to see his grand kids before we move across the country.
did I do the right thing? Should I have just let him spring himself into probably what will be the most stressful day of my life so far? (I know this is a month away, but I am really stressing about all this...)
I emailed my dad to let him know, he lives about 6 hours south of me and has only visited his grandchildren twice (maybe 3 times?) in the 3 years that we have lived out here.. I told him when we were leaving, and as some kind of grand gesture (I guess) I told him it would be cool if he came to visit before we move. Maybe he could bring my brother, who lives pretty far away as well.
He emailed me back, and my brother too, to ask which dates were good for me, with a list of 3 or 4 sets of dates between now and the 10th. including the 10th. and I responded that the last one would be pretty stressful for us.
He responded by manipulating me, bringing up my brother and the fact that I will probably not see him again for a really long time if we move without letting him come up. and also that the 10th is the ONLY date that he can come up and that it would be totally cool to bring an air mattress and camp out in my living room floor.
not only that, he tried to make it sound like it was MY fault that I haven't seen my brother much. as if it is my fault that my brother is older than me and is only just getting his license... my dad drives up to Irvine from San Diego to pick up my brother at least 3 or 4 times a year...
I could go on and on, I am sorry.
I am completely bewildered, I was sort of wishy washy in the first few responses... I don't want to seem like I have completely cut him off, though I really never talk to him much anymore.. it always ends up horrible,. He always brings up his religion. I finally told him that it would not work and he would have to pick an earlier date.
I don't really have a question.. I just wanted to vent with people who might understand... I don't really want to see him at all.. I was so excited to move out of his house when I did and like i said, we rarely talk to this day. I just don't want to shut out his last opportunity to see his grand kids before we move across the country.
did I do the right thing? Should I have just let him spring himself into probably what will be the most stressful day of my life so far? (I know this is a month away, but I am really stressing about all this...)
