Do You Come from a Relational Trauma Background?
Opens in a new tab. 30 questions. Free and confidential.
This clinically-informed assessment was designed by Annie Wright, LMFT, drawing on over 15,000 clinical hours with driven, ambitious women. It helps you understand whether patterns from your earliest relationships may still be quietly shaping your adult life — your decisions, your relationships, and the weight you carry beneath the surface. After you complete the quiz, you’ll receive a personalized Relational Trauma Profile written specifically for your score level.
The question nobody asked you growing up
You’ve built a life that looks remarkable from the outside. The career. The competence. The ability to hold it all together when everything around you shifts.
But somewhere beneath that — in the 3am silence, in the moments after a fight, in the way you brace when someone gets too close — there’s a pattern you didn’t choose. A way of moving through the world that was shaped long before you had language for it.
This quiz doesn’t diagnose. It doesn’t label. It names what you may already suspect — and gives you a framework for understanding it.
What you’ll receive
After completing 30 questions, you’ll get one of four results: Low, Moderate, Moderate-High, or High Likelihood of a relational trauma background.
Along with your result, you’ll receive a personalized Relational Trauma Profile — not a generic PDF, but a clinically-grounded document written for women with your specific score. It covers:
- What your score actually means — the patterns it explains, drawn from 15,000+ clinical hours
- The hidden costs — how these patterns show up in your career, relationships, and body
- Why you adapted this way — the neuroscience behind your survival strategies
- A personal note from Annie — what she’s learned from women with your score
- Your specific next steps — not generic advice, but a path forward calibrated to where you are
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do / with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver, poet
Ready when you are
Take the Relational Trauma Quiz
30 questions. 10–15 minutes. A clinically-informed assessment with a personalized Relational Trauma Profile delivered to your inbox.
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RELATIONAL TRAUMA
Relational trauma refers to the psychological wounding that occurs within the context of significant relationships — typically in childhood, when a person’s primary caregivers are unable to consistently provide safety, attunement, and emotional responsiveness. First described by researchers including Judith Herman, MD, author of Trauma and Recovery, and Bessel van der Kolk, MD, psychiatrist and author of The Body Keeps the Score.
In plain terms: It’s not that something dramatic necessarily happened. It’s that something important was missing — and you’ve been compensating for that absence ever since, usually in ways that look like strength from the outside.
Who this quiz is for
This assessment was designed for women who:
- Have built impressive lives but feel a quiet disconnect between their external success and their internal experience
- Wonder whether their childhood shaped them in ways they haven’t fully understood
- Find themselves repeating patterns in relationships — distance, caretaking, hypervigilance, or difficulty trusting
- Have tried therapy, self-help, or personal development but still feel like something foundational hasn’t shifted
- Are ready to understand the architecture beneath their patterns, not just manage the symptoms
The quiz is free, confidential, and takes about 10–15 minutes.
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WAYS TO WORK WITH ANNIE
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Annie Wright, LMFT
LMFT · Relational Trauma Specialist · W.W. Norton Author
Helping ambitious women finally feel as good as their résumé looks.
Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven, ambitious women — including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs — in repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in Forbes, Business Insider, Inc., NBC, and The Information. She is currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.
